The pussy - A user's guide (part 1)
Men are easily pleased, when it comes to sex. Women, however, it's an entirely different matter. Things have changed and men refuse to acknowledge that. Women no longer keep their frustration to themselves and often do something about it. There is a reason why a lot of relationships that seem to have everything to work out actually don't. Also, there is a reason why women are increasingly looking for other women's company. For most, the phenomenon of faking orgasms is well known. Why is that? who's fault is it? mainly, porn is to blame. It gives men a false idea of what a woman is and what she wants. We've seen a lot of guys fucking women, convinced they were doing a good job, when, in fact, the women were doing all they could to get it over with, including exaggerated moaning, lines and fake orgasms. Of course guys were left wondering why they were never willing to meet them again and even avoided them when they crossed each other's paths at the club... The truth: most men don't know what a pussy is or how to treat it...
"Yeah, right... most women are actually pleased with sex. I've never had any complaint!". Well... if, instead of doing the ostrich, you really want to know, get yourself into the most popular search engine's home page and type "woman orgasm statistics"... there you go... clear enough? you don't even need to follow any link or read an entire article... that's how bluntly real things are! So... what is the probability of "Oh god...oh god...oh, shit...yessss" being real?
What about the lifestyle? There are a few scenes we clearly remember that can add a bit to this. Once, while in a club, we decided to go down to the dungeon and found Marika, a girl friend of ours, against a wall, being fucked from behind by this huge black guy. By the sound of it, you would say she was enjoying it fully and wouldn't even realise we were there, until, she looked at us, rolled her eyes and gave us a "will be right with you" sign. One other time, we got this girl friend of ours to a club. Martim had to go pee and, on his way to the loo, he kissed a few of our friends. Our girlfriend was quite impressed with it and asked Steff "is your husband crazy? he is kissing all the girls!". When Martim got back, Steff told him and he jokingly went "well, if it was to kiss mine I would've stayed at home". This same girl decided to bring her boyfriend along, the following weekend. As we were in a bedroom with another couple and, Bella, another girl friend, the guy went fucking Steff. He was a true human jackhammer! After a few minutes, Steff told him, smiling, "Guy, my kidneys are about to fall off!", as she moved closer to the other couple's guy mentioning it was time to switch. So, the guy went fucking Bella. Martim was busy with the other guy's wife, as she kissed our girl friend. A few minutes later, he looked at Bella. The guy had her doggy style... she looked at Martim with her hand mimicking the gesture she had shown us a few times before when talking about guys fucking her doggy style: eating popcorn! We could, of course, go on and on with the stories and memorable scenes...
So... what's wrong with God's plan of putting cocks inside pussies for pleasure? nothing... but porn happened. Porn usually shows you how not to fuck a woman. And it rarely and swiftly shows you how to lick one. Considering the vagina's anatomy and nerve terminations, mostly on the clitoris, it's no wonder women can't get off, unless they do it themselves. "Oh, but she likes a deep, hard fuck!"... yes, she does... once she gets there. It turns out that, although clitoral stimulation accounts for a great deal of a woman's pleasure, it can get a bit sensitive and unpleasant, if too much. At a point of intermediate arousal, the blood starts flowing and irrigating nearby tissues. Less direct stimulation becomes very enjoyable. But even when sticking your cock in her pussy you should know how to do it.
For the utterly confused and lost, maybe a little anatomy might help. If we used a drawing, most would have trouble mapping it to the real thing. As such, here goes a picture of Steff's pussy. Like that, you really don't have any excuse, the next time you see it. Of course, pussies have variations, so, watch out for the landmarks...
- (A) The Mons Pubis: it acts as a cushion, of sorts, for face to face pounding. If well used, can serve as a support point for the most pleasurable moves a man can do on a woman, with his dick penetrating her in a forward movement, against the upper internal wall of her pussy. Depending on the kind of nose you have, it can be a good support for oral sex and a good way to measure your positioning
- (B) The Front Commissure and the clitoral shaft: just below the Mons Pubis and above the clitoris. Some women are too sensitive for direct clitoris stimulation. If so, the man's best bet is to stimulate this area as the nerves flow under it and it makes for indirect stimulation. Careful pounding during face to face sex is enjoyable and a firm hand gently rubbing it when penetrating from behind is definitely helpful. Remember one thing... the clitoral shaft is the equivalent of your penis shaft...
- (C) The Clitoris and the Clitoral Hood: Now... listen up! The way you understand and master the interaction between these two will make or break your sex god aura! The hood is there to protect against unwanted sensation. On the other hand, the Clitoris is there to be stimulated. They are different and behave different in every woman. You have to understand their mechanics but it should not take more than a couple of minutes as she can't wait forever for an orgasm. Initially, the hood is over the Clitoris. You should not poke your tongue or finger or... under it. Gently work around it in circular and downward movements. As the orgasm builds, the hood will usually retract, inviting more and more sensation on the Clitoris. The key is that the Clitoris should be ready and willing to receive additional stimulation. Otherwise, it will be a pleasure killer. As with most things, practice and attention to details makes for perfection. The Clitoris is like the penis in the sense that it increases and decreases in volume, filling with blood and increasing and decreasing in sensitivity
- (D) The Labia: the configuration of the labia is widely varying in women. And so is its sensitivity. Most women would like the sensation of a tongue running up and down their labia, paying special attention to the areas where both sides meet, at the top (Frenulum) and at the bottom (Fourchette). Constant stimulation of the Clitoris might turn into pain... as such, alternating your moves between it and the labia is usually a good strategy.
- (E) The vaginal opening: well... the tunnel of love! The thing is most guys don't realise how it works in conjunction with the rest. First of all, deeper is not always better... i know... what a surprise! Most women will tell you they actually favour girth instead of length... is one of those things about men... "mine is bigger than yours"... shouldn't it be "mine is thicker than yours"? ask girls and they will tell you! Also, banging on it like crazy doesn't really do the trick if nothing else is being stimulated!
OK... so, the objective is to get the girl to come. On this, we should realise the biggest sexual organ, both in women and in men, is the brain. As such, going straight for the pussy won't usually be the best strategy. Contrary to men, women can orgasm in a variety of ways and with different intensities. One girl once told us that some are "bright red" and others are "pastel colours". The number of orgasms a girl can achieve also varies widely. Even the same girl can have distinct phases. It mainly has to do with upbringing and sexual confidence. As a woman gets more and more aware of her sexuality and confident enough to demand what she likes, she will have more and more orgasms. This means that a woman should get to know her pussy intimately. Playing with it a lot is usually a good start. Steff always thought of herself as a "3 orgasms girl". Rarely would she get to 4 and, on special circumstances, 5. Now, she often gets above 20 on a single night, depending on the partners. It got quite easy for her to orgasm, if the guy knows what he is doing (if he doesn't, she will tell him what to do).
The Clitoris is the only organ in the human body, male or female, that is exclusively dedicated to provide pleasure. That is the source of multiple unfortunate myths and social believes. Just look at the definition of nymphomaniac at Doctionary.com: "a woman who has abnormally excessive and uncontrollable sexual desire". Of course it all depends on how much is "abnormal". And, if it is not excessive, she is probably "frigid"... go figure! When it comes to the vagina, the most common myth is that "excessive use" makes it wide and slack. Once again, "excessive use" is relative. A woman's body is made for pleasure. Much more so than the man's. The vagina is around 90% muscle. How do you tone muscles? most women have heard of Kegels... sex is even better. Aging makes the pussy, as does with other muscles, saggy... sex keeps it young! Just imagine this: a woman's vagina changes in shape and size with arousal and adjusts to better feel pleasure... when she orgasms, the muscles contract hundreds, if not thousands of times... conclusion? orgasming is the best way to keep your vagina strong and toned!
"Yeah, right... most women are actually pleased with sex. I've never had any complaint!". Well... if, instead of doing the ostrich, you really want to know, get yourself into the most popular search engine's home page and type "woman orgasm statistics"... there you go... clear enough? you don't even need to follow any link or read an entire article... that's how bluntly real things are! So... what is the probability of "Oh god...oh god...oh, shit...yessss" being real?
What about the lifestyle? There are a few scenes we clearly remember that can add a bit to this. Once, while in a club, we decided to go down to the dungeon and found Marika, a girl friend of ours, against a wall, being fucked from behind by this huge black guy. By the sound of it, you would say she was enjoying it fully and wouldn't even realise we were there, until, she looked at us, rolled her eyes and gave us a "will be right with you" sign. One other time, we got this girl friend of ours to a club. Martim had to go pee and, on his way to the loo, he kissed a few of our friends. Our girlfriend was quite impressed with it and asked Steff "is your husband crazy? he is kissing all the girls!". When Martim got back, Steff told him and he jokingly went "well, if it was to kiss mine I would've stayed at home". This same girl decided to bring her boyfriend along, the following weekend. As we were in a bedroom with another couple and, Bella, another girl friend, the guy went fucking Steff. He was a true human jackhammer! After a few minutes, Steff told him, smiling, "Guy, my kidneys are about to fall off!", as she moved closer to the other couple's guy mentioning it was time to switch. So, the guy went fucking Bella. Martim was busy with the other guy's wife, as she kissed our girl friend. A few minutes later, he looked at Bella. The guy had her doggy style... she looked at Martim with her hand mimicking the gesture she had shown us a few times before when talking about guys fucking her doggy style: eating popcorn! We could, of course, go on and on with the stories and memorable scenes...
So... what's wrong with God's plan of putting cocks inside pussies for pleasure? nothing... but porn happened. Porn usually shows you how not to fuck a woman. And it rarely and swiftly shows you how to lick one. Considering the vagina's anatomy and nerve terminations, mostly on the clitoris, it's no wonder women can't get off, unless they do it themselves. "Oh, but she likes a deep, hard fuck!"... yes, she does... once she gets there. It turns out that, although clitoral stimulation accounts for a great deal of a woman's pleasure, it can get a bit sensitive and unpleasant, if too much. At a point of intermediate arousal, the blood starts flowing and irrigating nearby tissues. Less direct stimulation becomes very enjoyable. But even when sticking your cock in her pussy you should know how to do it.
For the utterly confused and lost, maybe a little anatomy might help. If we used a drawing, most would have trouble mapping it to the real thing. As such, here goes a picture of Steff's pussy. Like that, you really don't have any excuse, the next time you see it. Of course, pussies have variations, so, watch out for the landmarks...
- (A) The Mons Pubis: it acts as a cushion, of sorts, for face to face pounding. If well used, can serve as a support point for the most pleasurable moves a man can do on a woman, with his dick penetrating her in a forward movement, against the upper internal wall of her pussy. Depending on the kind of nose you have, it can be a good support for oral sex and a good way to measure your positioning
- (B) The Front Commissure and the clitoral shaft: just below the Mons Pubis and above the clitoris. Some women are too sensitive for direct clitoris stimulation. If so, the man's best bet is to stimulate this area as the nerves flow under it and it makes for indirect stimulation. Careful pounding during face to face sex is enjoyable and a firm hand gently rubbing it when penetrating from behind is definitely helpful. Remember one thing... the clitoral shaft is the equivalent of your penis shaft...
- (C) The Clitoris and the Clitoral Hood: Now... listen up! The way you understand and master the interaction between these two will make or break your sex god aura! The hood is there to protect against unwanted sensation. On the other hand, the Clitoris is there to be stimulated. They are different and behave different in every woman. You have to understand their mechanics but it should not take more than a couple of minutes as she can't wait forever for an orgasm. Initially, the hood is over the Clitoris. You should not poke your tongue or finger or... under it. Gently work around it in circular and downward movements. As the orgasm builds, the hood will usually retract, inviting more and more sensation on the Clitoris. The key is that the Clitoris should be ready and willing to receive additional stimulation. Otherwise, it will be a pleasure killer. As with most things, practice and attention to details makes for perfection. The Clitoris is like the penis in the sense that it increases and decreases in volume, filling with blood and increasing and decreasing in sensitivity
- (D) The Labia: the configuration of the labia is widely varying in women. And so is its sensitivity. Most women would like the sensation of a tongue running up and down their labia, paying special attention to the areas where both sides meet, at the top (Frenulum) and at the bottom (Fourchette). Constant stimulation of the Clitoris might turn into pain... as such, alternating your moves between it and the labia is usually a good strategy.
- (E) The vaginal opening: well... the tunnel of love! The thing is most guys don't realise how it works in conjunction with the rest. First of all, deeper is not always better... i know... what a surprise! Most women will tell you they actually favour girth instead of length... is one of those things about men... "mine is bigger than yours"... shouldn't it be "mine is thicker than yours"? ask girls and they will tell you! Also, banging on it like crazy doesn't really do the trick if nothing else is being stimulated!
OK... so, the objective is to get the girl to come. On this, we should realise the biggest sexual organ, both in women and in men, is the brain. As such, going straight for the pussy won't usually be the best strategy. Contrary to men, women can orgasm in a variety of ways and with different intensities. One girl once told us that some are "bright red" and others are "pastel colours". The number of orgasms a girl can achieve also varies widely. Even the same girl can have distinct phases. It mainly has to do with upbringing and sexual confidence. As a woman gets more and more aware of her sexuality and confident enough to demand what she likes, she will have more and more orgasms. This means that a woman should get to know her pussy intimately. Playing with it a lot is usually a good start. Steff always thought of herself as a "3 orgasms girl". Rarely would she get to 4 and, on special circumstances, 5. Now, she often gets above 20 on a single night, depending on the partners. It got quite easy for her to orgasm, if the guy knows what he is doing (if he doesn't, she will tell him what to do).
The Clitoris is the only organ in the human body, male or female, that is exclusively dedicated to provide pleasure. That is the source of multiple unfortunate myths and social believes. Just look at the definition of nymphomaniac at Doctionary.com: "a woman who has abnormally excessive and uncontrollable sexual desire". Of course it all depends on how much is "abnormal". And, if it is not excessive, she is probably "frigid"... go figure! When it comes to the vagina, the most common myth is that "excessive use" makes it wide and slack. Once again, "excessive use" is relative. A woman's body is made for pleasure. Much more so than the man's. The vagina is around 90% muscle. How do you tone muscles? most women have heard of Kegels... sex is even better. Aging makes the pussy, as does with other muscles, saggy... sex keeps it young! Just imagine this: a woman's vagina changes in shape and size with arousal and adjusts to better feel pleasure... when she orgasms, the muscles contract hundreds, if not thousands of times... conclusion? orgasming is the best way to keep your vagina strong and toned!
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